You know how you go to an amazing festival/event/conference and you get really pumped up on good vibes and all the feels? You’re energized, excited, and leave flying high. You decide this will be YOUR YEAR. You will eat more kale. You will do yoga every day. You will keep in touch with your new BFF. You are shiny, new, improved, reinvented version of yourself. You are unstoppable!
Then the next day you’re kind of exhausted and really just want to nap (in a good way). You promise yourself you’ll take a few days off because you deserve it (which you DO.
Then…before you know it, a few weeks goes by and you’re thinking, “Wait–what am I supposed to be doing?” And then before the swag bag goodies are fully gone, you either get overwhelmed, burnt out, or kind of forget what you were supposed to be doing.
Don’t worry–you’re not alone.
This weekend I gave the opening talk for The Good Fest. My goal was to set the tone for the day (receptive, unity, open-hearted, open-minded), talked about how to figure out what you’re missing in your life and what you need, led a clearing exercise and guided everyone to set an Intention. You can read more about it here.
For the GOOD attendees, below is your cheat sheet for how to take your Ignition Point (as I like to call it) off the mat and into your real world at home.
For everyone who didn’t attend, FEAR NOT. You can use this as your New Year’s Resolution Refresher–as we’re nearly 1/3 into the year, the timing is perfect.
- Grab your journal and make yourself a cup of tea.
- Find some quiet time and space alone.
- Take 3 Cleansing Breaths.
If you’ve seen me speak, I’ve walked you through this. If you haven’t, here’s the drill: Take 3 deep breaths. Breathe in through the nose and loudly sigh out of the mouth on the exhale.
- Do my Let Go exercise.
Again, if you’ve done this with me, go right into it. If you’re new, here’s how: Keep doing Cleansing Breaths (above) and now mentally add the chant “Let…Go…” in concert with your breath. Inhale to “Let,” and exhale “Go…” and then consciously commit to letting go of anything that’s currently weighing on your mind. Any worries/thoughts/expectations that you have: Inhale to “Let,” and exhale “Go…” Do as many rounds as you need to in order to clear the mental clutter.
- Connect to your calm, centered self..
Close your eyes, place one palm on your belly and one palm on your heart and ask yourself, “Where in the OM Am I in my life right now? What am I looking for? What was I seeking to create or grow in my life?” Gently open your eyes, take out your journal, and write down the first things that come to mind.
- Next, close your eyes and ask yourself, “What was the Intention I set for myself?” (at The Good Fest, as my New Year’s Resolution, or whenever you last set an Intention for yourself). Does it still resonate? Is this still what you want to work on? Gently open your eyes and write down whatever comes to your mind.
- Recommit to your original or newly realized Intention.
Press your palms together at your heart. Press your pinkies and thumbs together and open the other fingers. This is Padma Mudra, signifying the thousand-petal lotus flower. It is the mudra of receptivity. Take 3 deep breaths, consciously breathing your intention into your open, receptive palms. Let your breath plants your seeds of Intention in your heart.
Whenever you feel unsure or disconnected, return to your journal and read what you wrote. Read your Intention. And when you need a boost, repeat this practice.
Additional ways to re-focus and re-charge:
- Connect to Community.
Remember that surrounding yourself with like-minded people is a great way to nourish yourself. Reach out!! You are not the only one going through this and you will feel so much better and more supported when that is affirmed
- Let Discomfort be Your GPS
As I wrote in my previous post: when something is uncomfortable or painful, our first (and normal) human response is to Ignore, Deny, or Push it Away. To cover it up with something else (food, wine, bad TV…whatever the distraction is). To pretend or deny that it’s there. I get it. I want to do that too at first.And yet…I advise (and practice myself) honing in on, exploring, and following the discomfort. Not only is it s an incredible act of courage to SIT and LISTEN to it, but it’s also your quickest way THROUGH it to the other side. Lastly, it’s trying to teach you something. So give it a try–follow it where it’s trying to point you. <3
These tools will support you as you continue your work and try to integrate it into your worlds at home (where the majority of the work–and progress!–will happen). Remember this is big, brave work you’re doing! I hope these tools feel useful, nourishing, and supportive.<3
Got questions? Comment below or send me an email or DM! xo
Back in my corporate days, I dreaded the annual year-end review with my boss. Who doesn’t? But sitting down with her to go over what I’d accomplished and set goals for the year ahead gave me major anxiety. Of course, this probably had something to do with the fact that my boss was a lunatic known as “Vomiting Vicky” 😉
Now that I’m out from under her corporate dictatorship, I actually love finding some silence and solitude to sit down with a cup of tea and reflect and set goals for the year ahead. Here’s my take on the previously dreaded, now delightful process: I hope it works for you too!
- Set aside some solo time: You in a quiet place with a cup of tea (or coffee or wine!), your favorite pen, and a journal.
- Take 5 minutes to calm and center with meditation. Set a timer. You can focus on your breath or use a mantra. Centering first is the key to clarity and focus so take the time to do it.
- Begin journaling. Think back to a year ago and, without censoring or judging, just write about your year. What did you do over the past 12 months? Highlights? Challenges? How do you feel about your year? What did you accomplish? What did you love? What did you wish you did–or did more of? As you take stock of the year behind, you’ll flow naturally into thinking about the year ahead. Write about what you’d like to do and…
- Set concrete goals. How will you know when you’ve achieved a goal unless you make it specific? “Write magazine articles” is a little vague. At the end of next year even if you wrote “more,” it may not be enough to make you happy. Try “Write my first article” or “Write 1 article per month” –it’s more specific. You’ll KNOW when you’ve done it and can celebrate that success! (Remember to celebrate!)
- Dream big…and keep it real. I always support dreaming big. Write your book. Launch your business. Travel somewhere exotic. But don’t try to write and publish 3 books, launch a business in a month, and travel to all 7 continents. Antarctica, Asia, and Australia in one year would be pretty darn ambitious, but one of those sounds great! You get the point.
If you’ve taken a workshop with me, you know I custom-blend corporate tools, yoga tools, eastern thinking and western thinking to create what I’ve found to be the most effective (and enjoyable) processes. So…I guess tou can take the girl out of the corporate world, but this girl is taking the best of the corporate world with her. And one of the most effective tools I still use is this year-end review…with a twist. I hope it works for you too. 🙂
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